Ep 81- Feeling Fat
August 28, 2025
Have you ever said, I feel fat? Maybe after overeating, trying on clothes, or just moving through your day. This phrase often brings insecurity and hopelessness, which can spiral into even more overeating.
In this podcast we will explore:
Common triggers that lead to feeling fat
Why insecurity shows up after overeating
Shifting your language around your body
How to stop feeling fat
What Do We Really Mean When We Say I Feel Fat
Fat is not actually a feeling. When we say it, we are usually describing either a physical sensation in the body or an emotional state. It is like saying I feel tall. You do not literally feel tall but you may feel insecure or different.
When you say I feel fat, you may really mean I feel insecure, unworthy, hopeless, or disappointed. Recognizing this matters because those emotions affect how you show up.
For me, when I said I felt fat, I would cancel plans, stay in pajamas, eat snacks, and hide from the world. That thought created more of the exact result I did not want.
Why We Say We Feel Fat
This feeling often follows overeating. You might feel guilt, shame, or the physical effects of being bloated and overly full. Sometimes it shows up when your body does not move the way it used to, when clothes do not fit, or when you notice something like back rolls touching.
We also live in a culture filled with messages about how our bodies should look. Social media and influencers tell us we must be a certain size to be loved and happy. When we do not fit that mold, we turn on ourselves.
Shifting Your Language
The problem is not the phrase itself but the meaning we attach to it. If you keep repeating I feel fat, you start to create an identity around it. Instead, try using language that names what is really happening.
Say, I feel uncomfortable in my body today or I feel insecure because of what someone said. This removes the shame and gives you clarity. From there you can ask, am I stressed, tired, or needing self-care? What is this feeling trying to show me?
The Link Between Binge Eating and Feeling Fat
Here is the hard truth. When you stop binge eating, you will feel less fat even if you do not lose a single pound. After a binge, the body feels heavy, bloated, and puffy, and emotionally you feel ashamed. That combination is what fuels negative body image.
When you start treating your body with respect by eating nourishing meals and honoring hunger and fullness, you begin to feel lighter and more energized. That shift is not about weight loss but about how you care for yourself.
Focus on How Your Body Feels
Instead of obsessing over how your body looks, focus on how it feels. Are you energized or sluggish? Are you caring for yourself with kindness or treating your body like the enemy?
A helpful thought to practice is I am working on it. I am working on healing my relationship with food. I am working on treating myself with kindness. This shifts the focus from shame to progress.
Do Not Let This Feeling Stop You
If you are feeling fat today, know you are not alone. So many people have experienced this. But do not let that thought stop you from living your life. Life is happening now. Canceling plans or hiding away only takes joy from you.
Show up for yourself with love and compassion. Be the person who gives yourself kindness and encouragement. When you believe you are worthy of love and respect, you open yourself up to receiving it from others too.
Final Thoughts
Feeling fat is not about fat at all. It is about insecurity, shame, and the meaning we attach to our bodies. By shifting your language, caring for your body, and focusing on how you feel, you can move toward freedom and confidence.
You are worthy right now, exactly as you are.
Take the Next Step Toward Food Freedom
If this cycle of overeating, shame, and feeling uncomfortable in your body feels familiar, you do not have to stay stuck in it. When you learn how to change the way you talk to yourself, stop turning food into the enemy, and rebuild trust with your body, everything begins to shift. That is exactly what I help you do inside the Confident Eater Program. Together we work step by step to heal your relationship with food, release the guilt, and build confidence so you can finally feel good in your body again.