Ep 75- How to Stay Patient When You Don’t See Results Yet
July 17, 2025
You’re doing the work to stop binge eating, but you’re not seeing results yet. Today, we’ll dive into an often overlooked skill: how to stay patient in binge eating recovery.
Whether you're just starting your confident eater journey or you’re months in and wondering if you're doing it "right," this episode will help you zoom out, stay motivated, and trust your path.
I cover…
What actually causes us to feel impatient & want to give up
What to do when you feel like “nothing’s working”
The hidden signs of progress in binge eating recovery
The mindset shift that helps you stay committed and consistent
Why We Get Impatient
Impatience shows up when you are doing the hard work but the results are still pending. Thoughts like this is taking too long, I should be there by now, nothing is working create the feeling of impatience. When you feel impatient you want to give up. You stop trying. You say screw it and binge anyway. That slows results even more.
Impatience is often grief in disguise. There is grief that it is not happening on your timeline. Grief for the version of your life you imagined having by now. Give yourself space to feel that. You have not lost the future you want. It is arriving differently than you pictured.
First Question to Ask
Do you believe you are doing the right things. You may not know with one hundred percent certainty, so ask for your best guess. Sometimes impatience comes from working hard on the wrong things. If you are still dieting, you are likely running in place. If you are unsure, reach out and get a second set of eyes on your plan.
If your best guess says you are on the right path, then your work is to stay the course and adjust with curiosity rather than throw it all out.
What Counts as Results
Most people look only at the scale. The scale is a measure of gravitational pull. It cannot tell you how well you are eating or how healthy you are. Ask what does results mean for me. Is it truly only weight. If you lost ten pounds but still felt chaotic around food, would that be success.
Every day you do not binge is a result. Every meal you pause before eating is a result. Define your markers in plain language so your brain can recognize progress.
Hidden Signs You Are Moving Forward
Look for these quiet wins:
more awareness of thoughts and feelings around food
sitting with emotions instead of escaping into food
eating more mindfully and chewing slower
listening to hunger and honoring fullness more often
one meal a day where you stop at enough
kinder self talk after a slip
pausing before you act on an urge
Noticing wins matters because celebration reinforces the habit. My most successful clients celebrate often. Take ten seconds to tell yourself I am proud of you for waiting for hunger or for leaving a few bites. Motivation grows when you see what is already working.
Check Your Timeline
What do you expect to accomplish in one month, three months, six months, a year, and why. Many timelines are marketing and fantasy. You did not build decades of habits in thirty days. Give yourself the time it takes. Paradoxically, when you remove pressure, change happens faster because you stop white knuckling and start allowing.
A Vision That Keeps You Going
Zoom out. What will your life look like in one year and in five years if you keep practicing these small changes. Picture the weddings and birthdays where you feel calm at the dessert table. The trips where you trust hunger and fullness instead of counting every calorie. The mornings you get dressed with kindness. The dates where you radiate confidence because you treat yourself well.
Write it down. Keep it visible. Remind yourself why this matters.
Act As If It Is Already Working
Ask yourself how would I act today if I knew it was inevitable that I become a normal natural eater. If you knew it was done, you would eat when hungry, stop when satisfied, release diet rules, and keep practicing. Show up like that today. Small prediction errors add up. Your brain notices when it expected a binge and you stayed calm, and it updates.
Final Thoughts
Patience is not passive. It is the decision to keep showing up while the results are still on their way. Celebrate the quiet wins. Hold a kinder timeline. Keep your vision close. Act as if it is already working. That is how you make it inevitable.
Ready to Stay the Course with Support
If you are tired of feeling like progress is too slow or that you will never get there, you do not have to do this alone. In my Confident Eater Program, we work together step by step to help you stay consistent, celebrate real progress, and finally feel free around food. You will learn the skills to stop binge eating, trust your body, and enjoy food without fear.