Ep 62- Why Mindset Is The Missing Piece to Becoming a Confident Eater
April 17, 2025
Do you feel like you’re doing all the things to stop binge eating but nothing sticks? Maybe you’ve created a meal plan, started tracking calories, journaled, or followed all the Instagram accounts for tips with no long term results.
Then mindset could be your missing key to food freedom.
You’ll learn…
Why actions alone won’t create lasting change
How your thoughts and feelings drive binge eating
Real-life mindset examples (and how to shift them)
Why Mindset Matters More Than Just Actions
When I was learning how to stop binge eating, I consumed everything I could find—articles, podcasts, Instagram tips. I even scrolled past page 50 on Google looking for answers.
But nothing ever stuck long term. I would try a tip, maybe it worked for a day, then I’d fall back into old habits.
Why? Because I was only changing my actions, not my thoughts or feelings.
Once I started doing mindset work, everything shifted. My actions became easier, my results lasted longer, and I no longer had to force my way through with willpower.
How Your Thoughts and Feelings Drive Your Actions
Here’s how it works:
Something happens in the world (a circumstance).
You have a thought about that circumstance.
That thought creates a feeling.
Your feelings drive your actions and those actions create your results.
Example Outside of Food
Let’s say a coworker asks you to take on a new project.
If you think, “I can’t take on another project. I’m overwhelmed.” → You feel stressed and shut down. You procrastinate and don’t complete the project effectively.
If you think, “I’ve got this. I can handle it.” → You feel capable, take action, and finish the project with confidence.
The same circumstance, completely different results—all because of your thoughts.
Why Mindset Makes Binge Eating Easier to Overcome
Without mindset, every action feels like pushing a giant ball uphill. You may chew gum, drink water, or journal to fight binge urges—but if your thought is, “I can’t handle this urge,” you’ll likely binge anyway.
But if your thought is, “I’ve got this. I don’t actually want to binge right now,” the same action (chewing gum) now leads to a completely different result: you sit with the urge, move on, and don’t binge.
Real-Life Example: Pre-Wedding Pressure
Circumstance: You have a wedding coming up.
Thought: “I have to stop overeating and lose weight before the wedding.”
Feeling: Pressure, stress
Actions: Extreme dieting, restriction → bingeing
Result: Unsustainable, stressful, possibly weight gain
Thought: “I want to feel my best and love my body no matter what.”
Feeling: Excitement, joy
Actions: Eating nourishing food, speaking kindly to yourself
Result: Confidence, freedom, and having the best time at the wedding
Same event, completely different results, depending on your thoughts.
How to Start Shifting Your Mindset
Notice your thoughts. Ask yourself: When I think this, how does it make me feel? What actions does it drive? Do I want those actions?
Choose better thoughts. You don’t have to jump to perfection. If right now you believe, “It’s impossible to stop binge eating,” try a stepladder thought like: “It’s possible I can stop binge eating this week.”
Practice your new thoughts. Repetition makes them automatic. Thoughts like “I can handle this urge” or “It’s possible for me to change my relationship with food” will eventually become natural—and your actions will follow.
Final Takeaway
You don’t need to try harder. You need to think differently. When your thoughts and feelings align with your goals, binge eating recovery becomes easier, more natural, and even enjoyable.
If you’re wanting some help with your thoughts and changing them, this is exactly what we do inside my Confident Eater Program. We go deep into the mindset work that makes binge eating and overeating so much easier to overcome.
Yes, you can absolutely do this on your own but when we work together, it’s like taking away that giant ball you’ve been pushing uphill. Everything feels lighter, more fun, and the changes actually stick for good.